First things first – HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY! I hope you all are having an exciting day filled with love, joy and happiness.
For many people (and businesses) around the world this a very exciting day. I absolutely love romance and everything that screams love, but for some reason I don’t share the same feelings as everyone else or at least most people. Maybe it’s because I have no one to celebrate it with, maybe there’s something wrong with me… I don’t know.
I always found it a bit cheesy.
After all, you don’t need a special day to tell someone you love them. If love isn’t there, there’s nothing you can do about it and the whole thing will be forced, won’t feel genuine and certainly will not fix a relationship. On the other hand, when you’re with the right person, Valentine’s Day may feel very special for both of you. If you are with the right person, most of your days spent together should feel special anyway, right? Or am I missing something here?
But what about those who are not in a relationship? Of course, you can still celebrate love for yourself (?), but again, you should be doing it on a regular basis anyway. One day in a year is not enough! For me, Valentine’s Day is a strong reminder of my relationship status. It’s pretty hard to watch other couples enjoy their day doing romantic things together or just being silly. It multiplies the feeling of loneliness by gazillion times and doesn’t do any good to my confidence levels. It makes me feel worthless and sad (yes, I’ve got issues just like you)…
I know, I can still celebrate Valentine’s Day by pampering myself, going out with my friends or watching romantic films… But it doesn’t work for me. My best friend is the first one to send me a Happy Valentine’s Day message which always puts a smile on my face but also feels weird receiving it from her. In my mind, it’s a day for lovers, not friends or family. Last year I received a handmade card from my son – that was even more weird. I know it’s pretty normal for most people, not me.
So what do I do about it?
I take this opportunity to dream about things I want to do this year, places I want to visit, goals I want to achieve…
As a photographer, I dream about going to the loveliest places on earth to photograph women and couples in love… I love travelling and I love beautiful places, but unfortunately, I haven’t been to many places because I spent my whole life working, working and working some more… How wonderful would it be to combine passion for photography with pleasure! I’ve been dreaming about visiting Italy for as long as I can remember. And I always wanted to learn speak the language because it sounds so lovely and romantic. Two of my childhood friends live in Italy now – how lucky they are! To me, it’s the most romantic place on earth.
I don’t dream just for the sake of dreaming. I dream so I can work out what steps I need to take to turn them into a reality. Speaking of which, I am going to France this year and I couldn’t be more excited! It’s not a proper holiday, it’s a photography workshop (even better) I’ve been dreaming to attend some day (translate ‘never’), and decided that now is the time to finally do it.
And of course, I dream about that special someone who would be happy to accompany me on my trips, but for now I’ll keep dreaming and making other plans. On the other hand, life is so much easier when you have only yourself to think about (and two other little people).
What does Valentine’s Day mean to you? Do you celebrate it or is it just another excuse to buy presents? Feel free to leave comments below.
Lots of love,